One Question, Different Answers

Life is full of questions. And in relationships, different answers to the same questions, often lead to disharmony, discord, and even divorce. While many people in various stages of relationships make the effort and work around these differences – many cannot, or simply will not make the effort.

The fact is, differences of opinion on various key issues or core values, if not acknowledged or resolved, will always threaten and chip away at the very bedrock of love, which the two partners share between them.

So unless we recognise this and work toward acknowledging the different answers, thinking them through, and then working toward getting on the same page, or alternately accepting the dissimilar stand, we are in for a stormy relationship.

So what happens when the question about love and what it means to each itself has different answers? Well there begins an avalanche of differences, and the end of hope, because I do believe if your love is strong, everything else falls into place.

So when evaluating a partner or relationship, when working to fix ones relationships, or while even working to ensure your relationship stays rock solid, to my mind the simple questions are –  is our value system the same, are the things we like to do the same, do we have the same approach to kids, do we have the same goals in life, do we have the same retirement plan in life – are our answers to the questions in our life similar?

Is it that simple... I don’t know. But it’s worked for me. Before, during, and unfortunately, often in retrospect :(